Share what you are going through, without comparison

Feelings first

Talk about a difficult moment, an urge you got through, a boundary you are trying to keep, or something that made the day a little easier. You choose your words and your level of detail.

For food and body topics, avoid weights, calorie counts, competitive comparisons and instructions for harmful behaviour. For substance use, avoid offers, sourcing, dosage instructions or glorifying use.

Lived experience, not a treatment plan

You can describe where you are today: in the thick of it, finding your way, or having been through it. These are self-descriptions, not verified qualifications.

When several people are available, we can favour complementary experiences. We do not delay an available conversation to wait for a particular stage, and nobody is assigned a therapist role.

You can step back

You are allowed to say that a topic feels too close or that you need a break. Listen without asking for graphic details. If a conversation becomes unsafe, report it and use the support page to find outside help.

Offer company without making comparisons

People may use the same word for very different experiences. Ask what it means to them rather than assuming that your experience explains theirs. You could ask: ‘Would you like to talk about what today has been like, or about something that gave you a little space?’ A peer conversation is not a place to assess someone’s progress or decide whether their situation is serious enough to matter.

When you describe something that helped you, keep it personal: ‘This was useful for me’ leaves more room than ‘You need to do this’. Do not suggest changes to medication or treatment, and do not ask someone to prove their difficulty with photographs, measurements or graphic descriptions. It is fine to say that a question feels too personal. You can share feelings and needs without sharing harmful details.

Being further along in your own experience does not make you responsible for guiding another person through theirs. You can be a thoughtful listener while also saying that you do not know the answer. If listening starts to feel too close to something you are carrying yourself, take a break. Your own support matters too. A difficult day does not remove your right to be treated with patience and respect.

How to begin here

Write at least 20 characters about what brought you here, choose your conversation topics, and select the languages you can comfortably chat in. Then choose your own available nickname and finish the adult account setup. You decide which personal details to leave out. Your opening note may contain sensitive information, so the setup asks for separate permission to use it for the service.

We look for an available adult who shares a chat language. There is no opening time, payment queue or artificial waiting period. If several people are available, preferences help us choose between them. A connection is not a promise of an immediate reply: conversations can continue when both people have time. Your search stays on until you deliberately turn it off, and each person appears in one chat thread.

Support that has clear limits

You can remove a conversation from your feed, block someone, or report conduct that breaks the rules. You do not need to argue with the person first. Reports give the moderator relevant context; ordinary messages are not sent to AI for blanket moderation. The service is run by one operator and is not watched continuously.

This guide describes peer conversation, not treatment or a crisis response. If you need urgent or professional support, use Find support to check services for your country, their languages and their opening hours. You can use those services alongside a peer conversation. You do not have to wait for a connection here before seeking other help.